P1-MPP10 - Forgiving the People Who Have Hurt You

Making Peace With Your Past

Unit 10 - Forgiving the People Who Have Hurt You

Memory verse: Luke 23:34, NIV – “Jesus said, “Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”

Affirmations to repeat: “Because God has forgiven me, I can forgive others.”

Day 1: Denying the Need to Forgive

Write out what each of the following roadblocks means to you personally.

Q1. Roadblock 1: chronic-shock syndrome. Pg 173

Q2. Roadblock 2: fear. Pg 174

Q3. Roadblock 3: The “I had good parents” syndrome. Pg 174

Q4. Roadblock 4: “Good Christians do not get angry.” Pg 175


Q5. Which are the main roadblocks in your life today?

Day 2: Understanding What Forgiveness Is Not

Q6. Describe a situation where you have been unwilling to forgive someone because you thought that forgiving would imply approval of his/her behavior?

Q7. Share an example of when you forgave someone but the pain of what they did, did not go away.

Q8. How have others in your life exercised dysfunctional forms of control over you?

Day 3: Understanding What Forgiveness Is

Q9. Describe the kind of forgiveness you need to express toward the people who hurt you as a child. Pg 180-181

Q10. Whom do you need to forgive and what did they do to you?

Q11. What do you need to do to be ready to forgive?

Day 4: Letting Go of the Past

Q12. List the ways that forgiveness can be blocked. Pg 182-183

Q13. Write out the verse Ephesians 4:32.

Q14. What does Jesus want us to do in that verse?

Day 5: Deciding to Forgive

Q15. Make a list of painful childhood events that stand out. Include the people who participated in the events. Page 184.

Q16. What still needs to be done to forgive the people who hurt you? Are you willing to do it?

Summary:

Q18. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this unit? (half page)