Saturday, January 25, 2014

P1-MPP8 - The Advantages of a Turbulent Past

Making Peace With Your Past

Unit 8 – The Advantages of a Turbulent Past

Memory verse: 2 Cor. 1:3-4, NIV: “ Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.”

Affirmations to repeat: “No matter what happens, I trust that God is working for my good.

Day 1: Looking in the Mirror

Q1. Referring to the list of traits of an adult child of an alcoholic, list the traits that describe you. Pg 137

Q2. Write a paragraph expressing your understanding of the ambivalent feelings discussed in this day’s material.

Day 2: Dysfunctional Family Roles

Q3. Referring to the roles that emerge from a dysfunctional family, which one best describes you as a child? Pg 141

Q4. How did your role in the family affect your childhood?

Q5. Do you still play that role in situations today?

Q6. What other roles to you filling in your childhood?

Day 3: Positive Results of a Painful Past, Part 1

Q7. List some of the good things God has done in your life.

Q8. Do you feel that your painful childhood helped you develop a survivor quality? How?

Q9. List the benefits of your survivor mentality or perseverance.

Q10. Share an example of when your survivor mentality helped you in a situation.

Day 4: Positive Results of a Painful Past, Part 2

Q12. Are you driven to succeed? Why?

Q13. Are you willing to let go and let God take control of this area of your life?

Day 5: Back to the Mirror

Q14. What are your going to do with the pain of your past? List positive ways you can face the pain. Pg 152

Summary:

Q15. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this unit? (half page)

P1-MPP7 - Healing Painful Memories

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Unit 7 – Healing Painful Memories

Memory verse: Romans 8:26-27 – “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weaknesses. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God’s will”

Affirmations to repeat: “I accept God’s healing of the painful memories of my past.”

Day 1: Painful Memories Affect the Present

Q1. Painful memories a) can lead to a general sense that something is wrong, b) can immobilize you through fear, c) may cause you to avoid certain feelings or situations, d) may lead to a denial of reality. Name other ways painful memories drain your spiritual and emotional energy. Pg.122

Q2. List three painful memories that are not easy for you to think or talk about. Pg. 122

Day 2: Signs of “Unremembered” Memories

Q3. How well do you remember your childhood? Do you have any memory gaps? Do you think these may relate to hidden memories? If so, how? Pg.125

Q4. Has anyone ever told you that you may have some hidden memories? Pg.126

Q5. List five danger signs of buried traumatic memories. Pg.124-126

Q6. Do you think you may have hidden memories that need to be uncovered and healed? Pg. 126

Day 3: Recovering “Unremembered” Memories

Q7. List four ways hidden memories can be recovered. Pg. 128

Q8. What steps will you take to probe your painful past?

Q9. What are you afraid of finding in your search? Pg.128

Q10. How will you deal with your fear? Pg.128

Day 4: Healing Painful Memories

Q12. List four ways to bring healing to painful memories. Pg.129-131

Q13. What steps are you willing to take to experience healing of your painful childhood memories? Pg.132

Day 5: Spiritual Strength to Begin the Journey

Q13. What steps do you need to take to turn over your painful past to God? Which steps are you willing to take?

Summary:

Q14. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this unit? (half page)

P1-MPP6 - Perfectionism and Procrastination

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Unit 6 – Perfectionism and Procrastination

Memory verse: 2 Corinthians 12:9 – “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me”

Affirmations to repeat: “Because God loves me, it is OK to be incomplete.”

Day 1: Programmed for Perfectionism

Q1. When Jesus says in Matthew 5:48 “Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect”, what did he mean? Did he intend for us to be a perfectionist? Pg.106

Q2. How do we become perfectionists? Pg.107

Q3. Did you have any “almost” messages, while growing up? What were they? Pg.108

Q4. What about the “zero-defects” message? Please describe. List some things that are not worth doing an an optimal level. Pg.108

Q5. Can you identify with the “hard work cover-up” message? How? Pg.109

Q6. What about the “idle-hands” message? Were you taught to stay busy all the time? How was this communicated to you? How did it affect you? Pg.109

Q7. Were you challenged to “reach for the stars”? Was this message motivating, frightening, or mixed (feeling both good and bad)? pg.110

Day 2: The Cost of Perfectionism

Q8. List three ways perfectionism makes relationships with other people difficult. Pg.112

Q9. Are you a perfectionist? What does this feel like? Do you enjoy it? Why do you feel this way? Pg.113

Day 3: Perfectionism and Productivity

Q10. Do you consistently procrastinate? Give examples. Why do you procrastinate? Pg.114

Q11. How has perfectionism affected your productivity? Are you too successful at being a perfectionist? Pg.115

Day 4: An Alternative to Perfectionism

Q12. What are the three steps to letting go of perfectionism? Pg.117

Day 5: Perfectionism and Excellence

Q13. Name four differences between perfectionism and aiming for excellence.

Q14. How would you define aiming for excellence? Are you willing to adopt this goal rather than the compulsion of perfectionism? Pg.119

Summary:

Q15. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this unit? (half page)

P1-MPP5 - Help for People Who Grew Up Too Soon

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Unit 5– Help For People Who Grew Up Too Soon

Memory verse: Romans 8:21 – “The glorious freedom of the children of God”

Affirmations to repeat: “I claim the joy of being God’s child.”

Day 1: How to Lose Your Childhood

Q1. List some of the ways you can “lose” your childhood. Pg 85

Q2. Were you a caretaker as a child? How did that affect you? Pg 85

Q3. List the types of abuse you were subjected to as a child.

Q4. What are the effects of this abuse today?

Day 2: What Children Need

Q5. List the basic needs that were NOT met in your childhood. Pg 89

Q6. List the feelings you experienced that were unacceptable in your family.

Q7. What are some of the things children need to be able to count on? Pg 91

Q8. Write a paragraph describing how your basic childhood needs were met or not met.

Day 3: Characteristics of an Adult Child

Q9. Write out 1 John 2:12

Q10. Write out the five affirmations for today

Q11. Be sure to answer all the questions in this chapter in your workbook.

Day 4: Healing the Pain of Childhood Losses

Q12. What are the four steps to experiencing inner healing? Pg 97

Q13. Which of the activities listed on page 98 appealed to you?

Q14. List some of the good memories from your childhood.

Day 5: Living as a Child of God

Q15. What does it mean to be a child of God? Pg 100

Q16. Describe the steps you take to become a child of God. Pg 101-102

Q17. What steps are you willing to take to become a joyful son of God?

Summary:

Q18. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this unit? (half page)

Let go, let God.

P1-MPP4 - Overcoming the Fear of Joy

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Unit 4 – Overcoming the Fear of Joy

Memory verse: Romans 8:15 – “You did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear”

Affirmations to repeat: “I release my fears to Jesus”

Day 1: Learning to Fear Joy, Part 1

Q1. Was your family of origin predictable, or unpredictable? If predictable, was the predictability good, bad or neutral? Explain. Page 68.

Q2. What do you remember waiting for as a child? Page 69.

Q3. Have you learned to be more comfortable with waiting than arriving? How is this affecting your life now? Page 69.

Day 2: Learning to Fear Joy, Part 2

Q4. Do you have ambivalent or conflicting feelings about yourself? Can you see ways this originated in childhood experiences? Write your comments. Page 70

Q5. Have you attempted to erase shame about your family of origin, through achievements? In what ways? Page 71

Q6. What do your masks look like? Why do you wear them? Page 71

Q7. Who were your family’s heroes?

Q8. What was your parents’ attitude toward authority figures? How did this affect the way you view people in authority?

Day 3: Examining Your View of God

Q9. Do you identify with any of the misconceptions of God described on pgs 74-75?

Q10. List these misconceptions.

Q11. Describe God’s nature and character based on the Scriptures on pg 75.

Q12. Who is your God? On whom are you depending? Pg 76

Day 4: Sabotaging Your Own Success

Q13. Which of the 10 statements on Pgs 78-79 describe how you think about success? Make a list of them and briefly explain why.

Q14. Which of the affirmations listed on Pgs 79-80 do you have trouble accepting?

Day 5: Moving Beyond the Fear of Joy

Q15. What are the steps to take when frightened by joy? Pg 81

Q16. How would you summarize in one sentence what all the verses on pg 82-83 say about fear.

Q17. Which verse is the hardest for you to believe and accept? Why?

Summary:

Q18. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this unit? (half page)

P1-MPP3 - Release From Shame

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Unit 3 – Release From Shame

Memory verse: Isaiah 54:4 – “Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated. You will forget the shame of your youth.”

Affirmations to repeat: “Through Jesus Christ I am clean in God’s sight”

Day 1: Growing Up in a Shame Factory

Q1. What were some of the things that made you feel ashamed when you were a child? Page 48

Q2. Do you think you are still carrying this shame with you today? Please explain why. Page 49

Day 2: Building a Shame-Based Identity

Q3. Which of the statements on page 50 – 51 did you respond yes to?

Q5. Do you feel you have a shame-based identity? What makes you answer the way you do? Page 51

Q6. In what ways do you try to hide who you really are? Page 50

Day 3: Living in Shame

Q7. Do you feel shame due to the actions of your parents when you were young? Pg 53

Q8. Do you feel you have followed in your parent’s footsteps? Page 54

Q9. List the ways you see evidence of this codependency in your life. Page 55

Day 4: Running from Shame

Q10. Do you bury your feelings of hurt and shame? Page 56

Q11. Do you use a strict moral or religious code to hide your struggle with shame? If so, how? Page 57

Day 5: Defeating Shame

Q12. Reflect on what Christ has done for you to remove your shame. Outline specific steps in a plan to experience healing from your past. Page 62

Summary:

Q13. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this unit? (half page)

P1-MPP2 - Recognizing Compulsive Behavior

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Unit 2 – Recognizing Compulsive Behavior

Memory verse: 1 Peter 5:7 – “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you”

Affirmations to repeat: “I accept God’s love for me” - “God is in control”

Day 1: The deadly nature of compulsive thinking

Q1. List the seven characteristics of compulsive behavior – page 31-32

Q2. What compulsive behaviors do you recognize in yourself? – page 33

Q3. Do you think a person can be addicted to religion? How? – page 33

Day 2: The compulsion to control

Q4. Do any of the characteristics on page 34, remind you of the family where you grew up? In what ways?

Q5. Do you feel a need to be in control? In what ways? – page 35

Q6. What did the family portrait story tell you about compulsive behavior? – page 36

Day 3: Two kinds of thinking

Q7. In what ways does living without Jesus, lead to death? – page 37

Q8. How does living in Christ, lead to life and peace? – page 37

Q9. Do you think Christians can fall into patterns of thinking that are more characteristic of the sinful nature, than of God? If so, how? – page 38

Day 4: The pain of disobedience

Q10. Do you recognize compulsive behaviors in your life? Which? – page 40

Q11. In what ways had Peter’s thinking changed? – page 40

Day 5: Freedom from compulsive behavior

Q12. What are the three characteristics of a person who is living in Christ? – page 41

Q13. Have you committed your life to Christ? How did you make this commitment? – page 43

Q14. Describe your heart-felt view of God – page 43

Q15. List the steps you plan to take, to break out of compulsive thinking – page 44

Summary

Q16. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this unit? (half page)

P1-MPP1 - Discovering Self-esteem

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Unit 1 – Discovering Self-esteem

Memory verse: Romans 8:1 – “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”

Affirmation: “I accept God’s love for me”

Day 1 and 2: Understanding your family of origin

Q1. Did you come from a dysfunctional family? Why do you think the family was dysfunctional? – page 12

Q2. Was the family’s attention focused on emotionally needy family members?

– page 12

Q3. Were limits placed on your expression of feelings? – page 13

Q4. What was your role in the family? – page 14

Q5. In what ways were you nurtured in your family? In what areas were you not nurtured? – page 14

Q6. Was your family open to the outside world? – page 15

Q7. Are any patterns being repeated in your present family? – page 15

Day 3: Losing self-esteem in a dysfunctional family

Q8. Did you experience something in your family of origin that damaged your self-esteem? Please describe. – page 18

Q9. Do you have a good sense of what is normal?

Q10. Do you carry shame for someone? – page 18

Q11. What feelings were not allowed to be expressed? How do you deal with these feelings today? – page 18

Q12. Has your faith in Christ impacted your shame at the core of your being? Be honest. – page 18

Day 4: Finding self-esteem in Christ

Q13. Do you recognize that you made choices which set you on the path to your addiction? – page 19

Q14. Have you shared your issues openly with God, or have you been hiding from him? – page 20

Q15. Where do you feel you are spiritually today? – page 21

Q16. What are you willing to allow God to do in your life? Are you willing to surrender to him on a daily basis? – page 23

Day 5: Getting in touch with your feelings

Q17. What techniques do you use to avoid your feelings? – page 25

Q18. What issues brought you here? – page 28

Q19. Describe one incident to explain what it felt like to grow up in your family

– page 28

Q20. What goals would you like to accomplish in this class? – page 28

Summary

Q21. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this unit? (half page)

P1-CCD11 - A Growing Relationship

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Step 11 – A Growing Relationship

“We grow in relationship with God by prayer, meditation, and Bible study.”

Memory verse: Matthew 6:33 “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you.”

Lesson 1: What is prayer?

Q1. How do you suppose God feels when His children approach Him with their requests? Pg 194

Q2. Explain why the Serenity Prayer is so valuable for those of us recovering from addictions. Pg 196

Q3. Why is praying fro God’s will so important for our continuing recovery? Pg 196

Lesson 2: Meditation

Q4. What does the word “meditation” mean to a Christian? Pg 197 - 198

Q5. What would your life be like if you really delighted in the law of the Lord—if your greatest desire was to please and honor God out of a sense of love and delight? Pg 199

Q6. Name at least two things God wants you to do in response to this study on Meditation. Ask Him for the grace to help you do it. Pg 201

Lesson 3: God’s Word and Obedience

“The grass withers, the flower fades, but the Word of our God stands forever.” Isaiah 40:8

Q7. After meditating on the above verse, describe what you can count on to endure in your life? Pg 201

Q8. What can you count on never to fail? Pg 201

Q9. List some of the ways the author suggest you ca “make time” for God. Pg 204

Summary:

Q10. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this step? (half page)

P1-CCD10 - Recognizing and Responding

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Step 10 – Recognizing and Responding

“We continue to take personal inventory, and when we are wrong, promptly admit it .”

Memory verse: Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your hearts, And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.”

Lesson 1: Guilt: A Devastating Burden

Q1. What evidence do you have that Christ is living His life in you?

Q2. Go back to Step 4 and select two incidents from your personal inventory that have caused you to feel guilty.

Q3. List the destructive effect the guilt from each of these incidents has had on your life.

Lesson 2: More About the Process

Q4. What is the basic focus of guilt? Pg 184

Q5. What is the primary concern when we feel guilt? Pg 184

Q6. What are the end personal results of guilt? What is the remedy? Pg 184

Lesson 3: Identifying False Beliefs

Q7. Describe some of the negative feelings you have experienced this week?

Q8. List how you responded to these feelings.

Lesson 4: Catching the Signals

Q9. Using the Savior/Judas chart on pg 188, study some of the patterns in your life:

When I feel like a savior, I have these/do these:
Feelings:________________________________________________________________

Thoughts and words:_______________________________________________________

Actions:_________________________________________________________________

When I feel like a Judas, I have these/do these:
Feelings:________________________________________________________________

Thoughts and words:_______________________________________________________

Actions:_________________________________________________________________

Summary:

Q11. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this step? (half page)

P1-CCD9 - Making Amends

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Step 9 – Making Amends

“We make direct amends to such people where possible, except when doing so will injure them or others.”

Memory verse: Matt 7:12: “Therefore, however you want people to treat you, so treat them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.”

Lesson 1: The Benefits of Amends

Q1. What do you fear most about making amends?

Q2. Are you willing to lay aside this fear and make amends even though you may experience pain when you do? Yes or No:

Q3. What possible joys might result from making amends?

Q4. What does “amend” mean? Pg 172

Lesson 2: The Mechanics of Amends

Q5. Write out your own definition of restitution. Pg 174

Q6. What suggestions can you think of to make indirect amends for people you can’t find? Pg 175

Q7. Using the format on pg 176 list the situations in your life that you fear making amends for.

Q8. Pray and ask the Lord to help you make amends for the people/things you listed.

Lesson 3: Taking the Step & Summary

Q9. Following the instructions on pg 177 complete the following list:

Name_____________________________________________________

Action Planned_______________________________________________

Date Planned____________________ Completed____________________

Copy and paste more if needed.

P1-CCD8 - Forgiveness and Amends

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Step 8 – Forgiveness and Amends

“We make a list of all persons who have hurt us and choose to forgive them. We also make a list of all persons we have harmed, and we become willing to make amends to them all.”

Memory verse: Luke 6:31 - “And just as you want people to treat you, treat them in the same way.”

Lesson 1: People to Forgive

Q1. Make a list of all persons you have harmed.

Q2. How would your life be different if you allowed God to take care of your grievances?

Q3. Allowing that your refusal to forgive is self-destructive, are you willing to forgive all those who have hurt you? Why?

Q4. Make a list of all the people you need to forgive… pray and ask the Lord to give you the strength and will to forgive them.

Lesson 2: Forgiving Others

Q5. On pg 161 there are 6 reasons why people don’t forgive. List the ones that apply to you.

Q6. On pg 162 there are 6 more reasons. Which ones have kept you from forgiving.

Q7. On pg 163 there are three problems stemming from lack of forgiveness. Describe the ones true in your life.

Q8. Describe the results of unforgiveness in your life.

Lesson 3: Taking the Step, Part 1

Q9. List 10 things for which you are glad God in Christ has forgiven you.

Q10. On pg 166 it shows an example of a “forgiveness guide”. Copy this on a separate sheet of paper and fill out some names of people you need to forgive.

Q11. Name at least one person you are struggling to forgive. Pray and ask the Lord for the grace to forgive them.

Lesson 4: Taking the Step, Part II

Q12. Answer the questions on pg 167. Write each one out.

Q13. What would the Lord ask you to do with the people on this list? Are you able to forgive each and every person on your list? Why or why not?

Summary:

Q14. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this step? (half page)

P1-CCD7 - Ready For Change

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Step 7 – Ready For Change

“We humbly ask God to renew our minds so that our sinful patterns can be transformed into patterns of righteousness.”

Memory verse: Romans 12:2: “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”

Lesson 1: The Grace Step

Q1. Why is it important that God give us the will (desire) as well as the work (ability) to follow Him? Pg. 128

Q2. Describe how sin has affected our thinking. Pg 128

Q3. What is the root from which our habits originate? 1. our thoughts, 2. our actions, 3. our beliefs, 4. our emotions. Pg. 129

Q4. Following the false beliefs listed below, write the corresponding truths. Pg. 130-131

False – I must meet certain standards to feel good about myself
Truth –

False – I must have the approval of certain others in order to feel good about myself
Truth –

False – Those who fail, including me, are unworthy of love and deserve to be punished
Truth –

False – I am what I am, I cannot change, I am hopeless
Truth –

Lesson 2: The Performance Trap

Q5. What was your score in the fear of failure test? What did this score mean? Pg. 132-133

Q6. Which of the patterns listed, may be seen in your emotions or actions? Pg. 133-134

Q7. What would you have to be or do to feel like you are a success? Pg. 134

Q8. What does it mean to be justified? Pg. 135

Lesson 3: The Approval Addict

Q9. What was your score in the fear of rejection test? What did this score mean? Pg.137

Q10. List three people whose disrespect or disapproval have had negative effects on you. Pg.138

Q11. Which of the results of fear or rejection listed, can be identified in your life? Pg.139

Lesson 4: The Blame Game

Q12. What was your score in the fear of punishment/punishing others test? What did this score mean? Pg.141

Q13. Do you believe that you really deserve to feel good about yourself? Explain why, or why not. Pg.143

Q14. What are the three most negative terms you use to describe yourself? Pg.143

Q15. What are the four concepts that describe propitiation? Pg.144

Q16. Do you have difficulty forgiving some sins in others? List them. Pg. 145

Lesson 5: Shame

Q17. What was your score in the shame test? What did this score mean? Pg.146

Q18. What are the two extremes in which we act out low self-worth? Pg. 148

Q19. Describe regeneration. P.149

Lesson 6: Taking the Step

Q20. How do we start to dig new channels in our life? Have you started this process? How?
Pg.151

Q21. What is your natural response to the following truths? Pg.152

I am deeply loved by God –
I am completely forgiven and fully pleasing to God –
I am totally accepted by God –
I am complete in Christ –

Q22. In what ways have you bargained (if I do this, they will change)? Pg. 154

Summary:

Q23. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this step? (half page)

P1-CCD6 - Acting in Faith

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Step 6 – Acting in Faith

“We commit ourselves to God and desire that He remove patterns of sin from our lives.”

Memory verse: James 4:10: “Humble yourselves in the presence of nthe Lord, and He will exalt you.”

Lesson 1: Becoming Willing to Obey

Q1. If you delight yourself in the Lord, which will be desires of your heart? Pg.113

Q2. What needs in your life do people-pleasing and/or perfectionism, attempt to meet? Pg.115

Q3. Which of the seven fears about God relate to your life? Where did these fears originate? Pg.115-116

Lesson 2: Positive Reasons to Obey

Q4. Does the love of Christ motivate you to obey Him? Why or why not? Pg.118

Q5. Summarize a time when you disobeyed God – what were the consequences? Would it help you to remember this example, when tempted to do the wrong thing? Pg.119

Q6. Which of the results of disobedience mentioned in the paragraph, have you experienced? Which of the benefits of obedience have you experienced? Pg.120

Lesson 3: Harmful Reasons to Obey

Q7. Which of the four poor motives for obedience, have you experienced? Pg.121-124

Q8. Write your personal “pledge of allegiance to Jesus.” Pg.124

Lesson 4: Ownership and Conduct

Q9. Who bought you? What was the price? Who did you belong to previously? Pg.125

Q10. List six ways to glorify God in your body. Which will you start on, this week? Pg.125

Summary:

Q11. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this step? (half page)

P1-CCD5 - Freedom Through Confession

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Step 5 – Freedom Through Confession

“We admit to God, to ourselves, and to another person the exact nature of our wrongs.”

Memory verse: James 5:16: “Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, so that you may be healed.”

Lesson 1: Why Take the Fifth Step?

Q1. If you refuse to practice Step 5, what 4 things will you be stuck in? Pg 101

Q2. Why does everyone need to experience forgiveness? Pg 102

Q3. Be honest with yourself, why do you hesitate to forgive others? Pg 102

Q4. What does experiencing Step 5 open the door to? Pg 103

Lesson 2: Taking the Step, Part 1

Q5. Does your confession make you forgiven? What does? Pg 103

Q6. Explain in your words what “sin” means. Pg 104

Q7. What does David mean when he says he is “blessed?” Pg 104

Q8. What happens to your health when you don’t confess the things you feel guilty of? Pg 105

Lesson 3: Taking the Step, Part 2

Q9. List the attributes you should look for when choosing the person to confess to. Pg 107

Q10. Why is it important for that person to know about the 12-Step Program? Pg 107

Q11. Briefly outline your story according to the outline on Pgs 108 - 109.

Summary:

Q12. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this step? (half page)

P1-CCD4 - My Moral Inventory

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Step 4 – My Moral Inventory

“We make a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

Memory verse: Lamentations 3:40: “Let us examine and probe our ways, and let us return to the Lord.”

Lesson 1: Why Take a Moral Inventory?

Q1. What is the definition of “immoral”? Pg 72

Q2. What are the benefits of taking a searching moral inventory? Pg 73

Q3. List some of the problems that alcohol/drug dependency can cover up. Pg 74

Q4. What are some of the things you are struggling with? Pg 75

Lesson 2: Dishonesty and Resentment

Q5. What two concepts are essential to your recovery? Pg 75

Q6. List the deceptions you have practiced in your addiction. Pg 76-79

Q7. What is the definition of “true forgiveness?” Pg 79

Q8. What are three good reasons to forgive the wrongs done to you? Pg 80

Lesson 3: Self-Pity and False Pride

Q9. Write out Proverbs 29:23. Pg 81

Q10. List the common characteristics associated with self-pity. Pg 82

Q11. List some of the things you are thankful for. Pg 83

Q12. How does false pride/false humility interfere with your recovery? Pg 83-84

Q13. Describe how humility can be a sign of strength. Pg 86

Lesson 4: Criticism and Destructive Anger

Q14. What is your motivation for criticizing other people? Pg 87

Q15. What should criticism and destructive anger be replaced with? Pg 86

Q16. How does a critical attitude affect your relationships, including your relationship with God? Give an example from your own life. Pg 88

Lesson 5: Fear and Impatience

Q17. List your fears that cripple you. Pg 91

Q18. Describe the way the listed fears control you. Pg 92

Q19. Describe how trusting God can help you deal with these fears. Pg 93

Q20. In what ways are you impatient or impulsive? Pg 93

Lesson 6: Selfishness and Sex

Q21. In the parable on Pg 95 (left margin), why did God describe the rich man as a fool?

Q22. Why should we confine sexual activity to marriage? Pg 97

Q23. What actions are you making to achieve God’s goal for this area of your life? Pg 99

Summary:

Q19. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this step? (half page)