Conquering
Chemical Dependency
Step 7 – Ready
For Change
Memory verse: Romans 12:2: “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”
Lesson 1: The Grace Step
Q1. Why is it important that God give us the will (desire) as well as the work (ability) to follow Him? Pg. 128
Q2. Describe how sin has affected our thinking. Pg 128
Q3. What is the root from which our habits originate? 1. our thoughts, 2. our actions, 3. our beliefs, 4. our emotions. Pg. 129
Q4. Following the false beliefs listed below, write the corresponding truths. Pg. 130-131
False – I must meet certain standards to feel good about myself
Truth –
False – I must have the approval of certain others in order to feel good about myself
Truth –
False – Those who fail, including me, are unworthy of love and deserve to be punished
Truth –
False – I am what I am, I cannot change, I am hopeless
Truth –
Lesson 2: The Performance Trap
Q5. What was your score in the fear of failure test? What did this score mean? Pg. 132-133
Q6. Which of the patterns listed, may be seen in your emotions or actions? Pg. 133-134
Q7. What would you have to be or do to feel like you are a success? Pg. 134
Q8. What does it mean to be justified? Pg. 135
Lesson 3: The Approval Addict
Q9. What was your score in the fear of rejection test? What did this score mean? Pg.137
Q10. List three people whose disrespect or disapproval have had negative effects on you. Pg.138
Q11. Which of the results of fear or rejection listed, can be identified in your life? Pg.139
Lesson 4: The Blame Game
Q12. What was your score in the fear of punishment/punishing others test? What did this score mean? Pg.141
Q14. What are the three most negative terms you use to describe yourself? Pg.143
Q15. What are the four concepts that describe propitiation? Pg.144
Q16. Do you have difficulty forgiving some sins in others? List them. Pg. 145
Lesson 5: Shame
Q17. What was your score in the shame test? What did this score mean? Pg.146
Q18. What are the two extremes in which we act out low self-worth? Pg. 148
Q19. Describe regeneration. P.149
Lesson 6: Taking the Step
Q20. How do we start to dig new channels in our life? Have you started this process? How?
Pg.151
Q21. What is your natural response to the following truths? Pg.152
I am deeply loved by God –
I am completely forgiven and fully pleasing to God –
I am totally accepted by God –
I am complete in Christ –
Q22. In what ways have you bargained (if I do this, they will change)? Pg. 154
Summary:
Q23. What are the major lessons you have learned as you progressed through this step? (half page)
